Dear Evelyn, If a girl is crap in bed – and I don’t want a catty “maybe it’s you who’s crap!” answer – how do you ramp things up a bit without performing the emotional equivalent of punching a girl’s head down while she’s giving you a hummer?
JW via email
Evelyn Answers: If she’s “crap” it’s because she’s lacking self-confidence or she’s inexperienced. You have two options. The first is to work on her self-assurance; compliment her, make her feel sexy. Alcohol might help. The second is to teach her a few tricks. Whack some good porn on. Nothing too adventurous – you don’t want to scare her off – then suggest trying out some of the moves. If neither works, admit defeat. Some people just aren’t sexually compatible and she’s probably thinking the same thing.(more Q & A.....) Email Evelyn evelyn@malaysiawow.com